When you choose to love, as in real love, you’re letting God teach you what love really is.
If you really seek His guidance on how to love like Him, He will not withhold it.
The easiest, detailed guideline on love is found in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8,
4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 [b]bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails; […]
To choose to love is messy. Yet the Lord will teach you how to love one lesson, one attribute of love, at a time. Until you can’t grasp a certain attribute of love, God will not tire in teaching you what you need to learn.
And once you realize how it is to be the one who loves, a lover, you’ll appreciate the Ultimate Lover. His love is perfect.
To love another person — flaws, shortcomings, and all — is taxing. What more could it be for God who loves all humanity?
As I am learning how to love, God is teaching me about His attributes. As I am learning more about my heart, I am learning more about God’s love.